Will The Court Factor In Verbal Agreements Between Parents in Child Custody In Michigan?

The Michigan courts do take verbal agreements between parents about child custody into consideration. The courts will undoubtedly reach a conclusion at some point. It is best that you consult with your respective attorneys so that the court can take into account verbal agreements between parents in a child custody issue. These oral agreements are crucial in Michigan child custody disputes. Request that your attorneys put your verbal agreement in writing. It guarantees that the court will take into account the verbal agreements between the parents.

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People can be fickle. Your ex can have a sudden and dramatic change of heart. Some “free” legal advice from friends and family can change their perspective. The unfortunate truth is that people do not always keep their promises, and in tense and emotional circumstances, people frequently have second thoughts about what they want or believe to be the best course of action.  

It is undoubtedly possible to have a verbal custody arrangement where everything works properly and both sides participate fully, but is it worth the risk if that changes?

Verbal and Informal Agreements, What’s The Difference

A verbal custody agreement between two parents managing the custody and visitation of their children is referred to as a parenting plan. Verbal custody agreements are frequently used in separations and unresolved divorce cases even though formal parenting plans are usually required in divorce cases.

In order to offer both parents a clear understanding of who would have custody of any minor children born into the marriage, custody agreements are created. These agreements include a precise timetable outlining when, where, how long, and when the children will return for each parent. The goal of custody agreements is to lessen disputes that may develop between parents as a result of misunderstandings, resentment, or spite, as well as to ease the transition for the kids during the separation.

Verbal custody agreements are made orally, typically during meetings of the parents to discuss how the children’s time would be divided. Making a verbal custody agreement is easy, but there are a few things to consider to make sure it is fair and specific. To be discussed are the children’s primary caregiver, where they will live, when the non-custodial parent will pick them up, and where they will go during visits.

In most, not all jurisdictions, verbal custody arrangements are regarded as binding legal contracts. However, verbal agreements are notoriously difficult to execute, especially if the parents are not on good terms. This is because it comes down to which party’s word is more reliable.

The court will find it challenging to enforce agreements without tangible proof of their provisions. To ensure that both parents have a legally binding copy of the plan, it is strongly advised that any custody arrangement you create, including open custody arrangements, be put in writing and signed by both parties.

Informal custody agreements can range from friendly discussions about who will see the kids on certain days to more formal written agreements created with the help of mediators and attorneys. Formal custody agreements can be created from informal ones provided the necessary paperwork is submitted to the court and accepted by the judge.

The divorce decree, which outlines the conditions of the divorce, is then amended to reflect the informal agreements. Arrangements between parents who were never wed, are momentarily separated, or are in the beginning stages of a divorce are frequently included in informal agreements.

A non-judicial agreement is an informal custody arrangement. An out-of-court custody arrangement cannot take the place of a judicial custody arrangement. An informal agreement that has not been brought before the court in legal processes cannot be enforced by the family court.

All agreements made in court and accepted by the court are formal and have legal force. Parents who choose to modify a court-ordered custody arrangement must go back to court to get the modifications approved.

Verbal Agreements Are Ok, Agreements in Paper Are Better

Parents may verbally agree on custody, child support, or both because the “split” was amicable and, so far, there have been no issues with exchanges or co-parenting. Other times, parents may reach a verbal agreement on custody, child support, or both because the “split” was amicable and, so far, there have been no issues with exchanges or co-parenting. 

When parents can reach a consensus, it’s always wonderful and greatly lessens the emotional and financial strain that court hearings bring. However, what happens if that agreement is never put in writing? Alternatively, why should the agreement be on paper if the parents are on board and everything is going smoothly?

Verbal agreements in place of official parenting plans are very seldom, if ever, permitted by family courts during divorce processes. The majority of jurisdictions demand that the parents present a written, signed plan so that the judge can formally enter it as an order obliging both parties to abide by it. 

Even if you and your ex-partner are on good terms, you should seriously consider documenting any parenting arrangements you make to safeguard both you and the other parent from future issues.

The Truths About Agreements According To The Law

A verbal agreement or oral contract is generally enforceable as long as it is fair, conscionable, reasonable, and carried out in good faith. There are just a few contract types that need to be in writing in order to be enforceable.

A contract must contain both an offer and an acceptance of that offer. A transaction must be proposed by one party and accepted by the other.

Consideration is a crucial component. It implies that in order to enter into a contract, both sides will have to provide something. There must be agreement from both parties. This merely implies that there must be a discussion or convergence of ideas. The terms of the contract must be clear to all parties.

If you really want to do this by the book, here’s what the book says.

The book says there are 5 essential elements of a valid contract or agreement:

One, competency.

A contract won’t be upheld by a court if it’s obvious that one of the parties couldn’t understand it or was forced to sign it. Each party entering into a contract must be:

(a) Legal adult (over 18)

(b) Having a good intellect and enough mental capacity

(c) Free from restrictions, in this case ones that limit their capacity to freely consent.

It is clear why the courts have these specifications for contracts that are legally binding. Anyone who has been fooled or coerced into signing a paper has not genuinely agreed to what it says; rather, they have just followed instructions. Unlike adults, minors are not thought to be capable of entering contracts due to the possibility of fraud. A parent or legal guardian, however, may sign on their child’s behalf.

Two, proper subject matter.

A contract clearly violating a specific statute or the public policy won’t be upheld in Michigan courts. The state will not force somebody to do something that is against the law, which goes without saying. Even though we hope you’re not entering into contracts of this nature, there are instances in which dishonest people or businesses try to persuade signatories they’ve given up certain rights.

Three, consideration.

A legal detriment agreed to in exchange for a promise is known as consideration. A party typically promises to do something for which they are not legally compelled or to refrain from doing something for which they are legally permitted in exchange for payment. This simply means you are entering into a contract not currently required by law.

Fourth, mutuality of agreement.

A “meeting of the minds” is necessary for a contract to be enforceable, which entails having all parties concur on the essential terms of the agreement. Courts consider the existence of an offer and an acceptance when examining this factor.

An offer is a declaration of intent to enter into a contract with specific conditions. The offeror does not need to state a contract is in existence, but intent is important in that the offeror’s goal must be interpreted as a contract proposal. It is important to consider whether a typical person would have assumed the offeror intended to engage into a contract.

Of course, it would be difficult for anyone to contest your agreement if you put it in writing.

On the other hand, acceptance signifies agreement with the terms of an offer by the other side. An offeror could insist on a certain acceptance format, such written form. If the Offeror so elects, the Offer shall be subject to the satisfaction by the Offeree of the Conditions of the Offer. If no format is specified, acceptance may be communicated in any manner the offeree deems appropriate.

Fifth, mutuality of obligation.

Both parties to a contract are obligated by its terms, which is referred to as mutuality of obligation. If one side is required to act while the other is not, mutuality is not present. A contract will be deemed invalid if there is no mutual commitment.

It can be very challenging to enforce the parenting schedule you have in place if something goes wrong without a written agreement, whether it be in the form of a “contract” or a consent order.

If something goes wrong, the only method to try to enforce a verbal agreement will be through litigation, which is an expensive and time-consuming process.

Try imagining how you are going to use the above in getting what you want in your custody and parenting time. This will help you have a more organized and sensible conversation with your attorney in terms of what you have you can offer and what the other party can give you. 

The court does factor your verbal agreements, but they prefer you do it in writing. Share your intentions with your attorney but get it in writing this time.

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