So you’ve done your research, weighed your options and thought long and hard about what’s best for yourself and your family. If you’ve settled on divorce, we know it’s something you’re taking seriously and a decision that���s not easy to make.
Perhaps the most difficult conversation to come is the one you need to have with your spouse to let them know how you’re feeling and the conclusion you’ve come to.
As your partner in family law matters, we’d like to offer some guidance on how to approach the situation.
How to Tell Your Spouse The Difficult News
- Go over the conversation in your head so that you can decide on your ultimate goals and what you hope to achieve from the conversation. Do you want to simply tell them how you’re feeling or do you want to begin to make an exit plan for the marriage that involves their input? If children are involved, you’ll also want to discuss how you’re going to let them know and include your partner in that conversation.
- Remaining sensitive chances are, you aren’t catching your spouse off-guard, but that’s always a possibility as well as the fact that they may not have fully anticipated this conversation. This likely wasn’t an easy decision you made, so it’s also going to be difficult for them to come to terms with at first. Consider this if the roles were reversed, ask yourself what you’d react like, and put yourself in their shoes for the experience so you can better decide how to go about things in a mature way.
- If you don’t think it’s going to go well or feel unsafe, consider doing so with a mediator present or a therapist. It’s important that you feel completely safe speaking with your spouse, and if you think they may react in a violent way, whether it’s verbal or physical, you should not be alone with them for that.
- Remain centered and confident. This is the decision you’ve come to, so you need to convey it correctly and firmly. Practice visualizing the conversation and speaking without hesitation so your spouse can hear you loud and clear.
Let Us Help
Our legal team has years of experience helping clients from all walks of life get through their divorce efficiently and effectively, coming out the other side with their needs and goals met. During the coronavirus pandemic, we’re happy to be offering FREE remote consultations and appointments for clients, meaning we’ll be able to help you through this process from the comfort of your own home.
Contact us today to schedule your appointment. We look forward to getting to know you.