Lawyers play a very crucial role in the divorce process but they don’t begin to play that role until you decide that you want to get divorce.
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Lawyers are not part of the decision-making process to divorce or not to divorce.
When people are considering divorce, they start thinking a certain way. They’re thinking of doing this and thinking of doing that. They vacillate between questions of, should I do this? Should I do that? They’re wondering how to handle their husband, how to handle their wife. Not really deciding to get divorce.
While lawyers are also called counselors and they have the ability to give certain advice, most divorce lawyers don’t want the responsibility of coaxing someone one way or another.
They don’t want an appearance that would seem like they’re trying to convince you to get divorce so you’ll buy their firm’s products so to speak. Hire us to represent you.
Lawyers avoid such conflicts of interest by telling you to speak to a marriage counselor, speak to your mom, speak to a priest, speak to your girlfriends, boyfriends, and your social circle. Figure it out already.
By the time you get to your lawyer’s office and seat in chairs across his table, that decision is already made
Your lawyer is not part of that process. What lawyers can do is wait until you make your decision. After that decision is made, here’s what you will do.
Once you decide to get divorce, your lawyer will give you some advice on how best to protect your assets between now and the time the court freezes everything.
Your lawyer will get you up to speed on what you should or should not do to avoid having your spouse for example liquidate the bank accounts, or run up the charge cards.
You will get appropriate advice on how you can better put yourself in a position with respect to custody issues. These are important advice family law firms can give
You can have all the advice you need, once the decision has been made to get divorce. Until you made that decision you really shouldn’t be seeking divorce advice. It somewhat taints your process.
Your process should be toward making your marriage salvageable. Is your marriage salvageable?
If the answer is still yes.
Don’t have divorce lawyers whispering in your ears. Work on salvaging your marriage. Can your marriage be saved? Maybe it can be. Maybe it’s just something that needs to be tweaked. Some small thing that you can do to put it back on course.
When you’re flying an airplane, pilots will tell you that if you’re just off by a little bit in terms of your pathway, you can end up thousands of miles off course.
The same is true with your marriage.
You can end up way off course from where you want to be if there’s some adjustment you failed to make. Pilots in the sky are always making adjustments to make sure they’re back on course. And you might have to do too in your marriage.
It may be something you can tweak. Maybe your situation is salvageable.
Or, maybe it is not.
There is nothing left to save, the fabric of your marriage is worn through and through, and there’s nothing left.Then of course you can contact your lawyer.
Your lawyer will help you along the way as it relates to the legalities of protecting your rights.
The decision to divorce or not to divorce is yours and yours alone.
Let’s hope those decisions are made wisely and judiciously.
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